#9 Maria Brandt: Practicing empathy

Welcome to blog post #9 of The Insightful Creative.

Maria Brandt, a storyteller, teacher, and writer based in Rochester, NY, begins our conversation talking about her curiosity in understanding others and herself as part of her creative process as a fiction writer.

“Writing is how I practice empathy. If I could have a superpower, it would be invisibility,” she says. “So, I could spy on everyone all the time. I’m moved by everyone. I want desperately to understand the full range of human experience.”

I’m reminded of something that Maria Popova, author of The Marginalian*, wrote: “Artists are the ones who, in seeing how and what most people don’t see, teach us what it takes to be ourselves, what it feels like to be someone other than ourselves, and what it means to be human.”

Maria Brandt experiences this deeply in her own creative process, where her fictional characters come to life with all their flaws. They may have “broken” or “toxic” sides, but she embraces them from the start, loving them for who they are, even before fully understanding them. As they evolve and reveal their complexities, her appreciation and empathy for them deepens. She explains, “During the drafting stage, a character shows themself to me and I’m all in, immediately. It’s immersive. As I revise, though, something else happens. There’s contemplation, quietness, and—if I’m lucky—there’s that miraculous ‘aha’ moment when I suddenly understand them, when I know them. This slow, deliberate uncovering is deeply satisfying. It’s how writing makes me a better human. It cultivates in me a deeper capacity to understand and love other people.”

I love what musician Ben Folds** shares about making art, which feels connected to what Maria is expressing. “It’s about following what’s luminous to you, and (then) putting it in a jar, to share with others.” He talks about the process of capturing the spark of something special and bringing it into light for others to see. In a similar way, as Maria’s characters reveal themselves, she is illuminating who they are as she grows to know and empathize with them.

As a performer (photo by Maria Brandt), I think about my own role in capturing such luminous moments in the music I play. I consider myself an empathic performer to some degree, but I am wondering how I could perform with greater empathy. Are there ways I can illuminate or embody what the composer wants to communicate, helping the music resonate even more deeply with listeners?

As I continue exploring creativity through this blog, the idea of “making space” seems to be a recurring one. We see how artists make space or illuminate the varied, complex, and wondrous experiences of being human, which helps us understand ourselves and each other more deeply. Artists can help us by highlighting aspects of ourselves and others that we may miss or not notice - or understand.

Maria’s last sentence in her artist statement captures this idea beautifully.“I’m interested in noticing the surprising ways,” she writes, “that paying attention can change everything.”

*The Marginalian, 5/4/21
**The Marginalian, 8/22/19

How do you think empathy can help reveal something new about yourself or others?
Has empathy ever led you to see a situation or person differently?
Can you pay attention more deeply or in a more engaged way?

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